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Understanding Your BDSM
Understanding Your BDSM Test Results
What Your Kinks Say About Your Desires (Without Overthinking It)
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Let’s Clear Something Up First
The BDSM Test isn’t here to tell you who you are or what you have to do.
It’s not a label.
It’s not a ranking.
And it definitely isn’t a checklist for your sex life.
It’s just a self-reflection tool.
If you’re curious and want to take it (or already have), here’s the link people usually mean when they talk about “the BDSM test”:
👉https://bdsmtest.org
This post is here to help you understand your results without pressure, shame, or confusion.
What the BDSM Test Is Actually Showing You
At a basic level, the test is showing patterns, not rules.
Things like:
- How you relate to control and power
- Whether you like leading, following, switching, or keeping things equal
- How you feel about structure, rules, or ritual
- How much intensity or sensation you’re curious about
- What helps you feel safe, turned on, or relaxed
Your results aren’t permanent.
They can change as you grow, heal, or gain experience.
About Those “Percentages”
High numbers don’t mean:
- You’re advanced
- You’re expected to act on it
- You need to explain yourself
Low numbers don’t mean:
- You’re boring
- You’re doing kink “wrong”
All they really mean is:
“This part of me is louder right now.”
That’s it. No hierarchy. No competition.
Fantasy vs. What You Actually Want to Do
This part matters a lot.
Just because something shows up on your test doesn’t mean you want it in real life.
Your results might reflect:
- Fantasy – fun to imagine, not to do
- Curiosity – something you’re learning about
- Selective interest – only with the right person and trust
- Lifestyle preference – something you actually want regularly
All of these are normal.
None of them mean you owe anyone anything.
Power Is More Mental Than Physical
People think kink is about ropes, rules, or roles.
Most of the time, it’s really about:
- Feeling safe
- Feeling seen
- Feeling in control—or letting go of it
- Knowing what calms your nervous system
Ask yourself:
- Do I relax more when I’m leading or following?
- Does structure make me feel grounded—or boxed in?
- Do I like clear roles or flexibility?
That’s the real information hiding in your results.
Consent Isn’t Optional (Ever)
No matter what your test says, healthy kink always includes:
- Clear communication
- Ongoing consent (not just once)
- Aftercare and emotional check-ins
- The ability to say “no” or “not anymore”
If something can’t exist with consent, safety, and respect—it’s not kink.
How to Actually Use Your Results
Instead of asking:
“So… what should I do now?”
Try asking:
- What does this tell me about trust?
- Where do I want more control—or more freedom—in my life?
- What kind of environment helps me feel safe exploring?
- Which parts of this are just for me to understand?
You don’t need to rush into anything.
Self-awareness alone is already valuable.
Final Thoughts
The BDSM Test isn’t a destination.
It’s just a mirror.
Use it to learn about yourself—not to label yourself or perform for others.
The most confident people in kink aren’t the wildest.
They’re the ones who actually know themselves.
—
Ederson Syvongsa, Creator of
Sacred Tie Shibari
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